HappyComeLucky

I love the name of this post. I am tempted to get a t shirt and a pin badge made with this on. Maybe if I can think of the appropriate logo I will.

I am very definitely a greedy slut. I am proud of that fact and revel in the delight of it. I am also very lucky because I know other people who can definitely join this club of they want.

What is it that makes me a greedy slut? It’s the amount of delight that I take in pleasure, especially sexual or kinky pleasure. I’ve been accused of being insatiable and in many ways, the people who have said that are right. I am very easy to satisfy because I enjoy such a wide range of activities but it is almost impossible to take me to the point where I am not up for a little bit more. So, yes, I am a greedy slut in the best way.

To be a member of the Greedy Sluts Club, you cannot be selfish. This isn’t a club for people who demand their own pleasure without equally valuing the pleasure that they give. I am as insatiable and passionate about pleasuring others as I am in pursuing my own pleasure. Actually, on reflection of the actions that I take, I am more greedy about giving pleasure than getting it. What a win win, being the person that makes someone else make those noises and the one that makes those muscles tremble makes me the happiest Honey. I haven’t noticed any complaints from others about that.

I think that you only have to see my reaction to the suggestions of fun to know how centred pleasure is in my life and how generously I share that pleasure. I have got to a place in my life where I have recognised and kicked down the stigma and policing of what type of appetite I am allowed to have. My decisions are now ruled by consent and respect and none of that patriarchal, disempowering, shame-based bullshit.

It’s not easy to get to the point where you can own your greedy sluttiness with pride. There was a significant period of time where I struggled with internalised misogyny and stigma about it. I know that being part of a properly sex positive community has helped. As has having partners, lovers and friends who know what I do and are celebratory and encouraging about it. Now, if I am talking to someone about my poly lifestyle, I may have some concern about how they will feel about it and how it will for with them. I do not have any fear of being judged on it because it is my choice and my life. They don’t have to be any more part of my life than feels good for them.

So, the conditions to become a member of the Greedy Sluts Club are as follows:

You must take delight in pleasure and be active in ensuring and celebrating your pleasure.

You must take delight in sharing pleasure with others or your choice.

You must be active in working to reject the inner voice of societal imposed shaming of non male sexuality and appetites.

I want to be clear that although I am poly and have lovers and partners, there is no necessity for other members of the Greedy Sluts Club to do the same. And you don’t get thrown out if you are not doing that. It’s an inclusive club about celebrating a mindset and attitude to life. For me and the people I see, it has the added bonus of fantastic fun and pleasure. You need to be responsible for what works for you.

So, are you a Greedy Slut? I know some of you are and some of you might be in the future. If you are, join me in the celebration of being a Greedy Slut!

I’m linking this post to Smutathon. It’s a fantastic project and this year they are raising money for Endometriosis. Please donate if you can.