The current kink of the week is corsets. Those beautiful, structured, sexy items that seem to add so much. There doesn’t seem to be anything about corsets that is understated or shy. They are sexy, sensual and powerful.
I seem to have a natural pull towards corsets. They catch my attention both in pictures and real life. There is something about the smoothness, the poise and that beautiful curve of the waist that embues the wearer with a presence, strength and a confidence that has deep sexual energy.
It is safe to say that I think corsets are stunning. So, do I have some? No. No, I don’t have a corset. I have tried a corset on, on two occasions. The first was an underbust which took my breath away in a good way when I looked in the mirror. The second was an overbust which was stunning. Unfortunately, I think my boobs combined with my voluptuous form are just too big for it as it squeezed everything upwards a bit too much and it felt as though I couldn’t hang my arms by my side. It also felt that I was approaching being able to rest my chin on my boobs which isn’t a good look.
So, as I know that an underbust corset feels wonderful, why don’t I have one? The answer is both complex and simple. I don’t feel that I deserve one. It isn’t the most rational thought that scampers through my mind but it is there. Corsets are beautiful and elegant. I am not beautifully elegant. I love myself and know that I am gorgeous but my body does not fit with my view of elegance. The fact that there would be overspill at the edges of the corset bothers me. If I had pushed myself as I was tempted to do and bought one, I would feel an imposter wearing it.
I know that others would tell me off for having that thought but it is there and it is what is in my head. When I get a corset, I want to truly revel in the delights of wearing it. I don’t want that to be tarnished by feeling that I am taking advantage of availability to sully something so sexy and powerful. When I get a corset, I want to 100% believe that I look as beautiful as I feel and that I absolutely fit the type of person that wears them. For now, I feel more right standing in front of you naked than I do wearing a corset.
Oh, Honey, this is a beautiful post, and anyone who would tell you off for feeling as you do would be horribly wrong. While I’ve seen enough snippets and images to feel comfortable saying that you are a beautiful woman, I understand the dichotomy you’re talking about. There have been dresses I haven’t bought because, lovely as they looked, they didn’t feel right for me at the time – they felt as if they were wearing me, rather than me wearing them.
Clothing should make a person feel good, especially a piece of clothing, like a corset, that is an indulgence. It should please the wearer to wear it, and if it doesn’t (yet), that is worthy of respect. I would just like to say that I think you deserve every beautiful thing in whatever shape it comes. xx
Thank you so much. I am glad that you understand the dichotomy. I know that in time it will be right but I don’t want to force it until it is. Thank you so much for the compliments too. Xx
I can related to this. I think my ‘ghost’ is my age more than body and do find myself wondering if I am ‘too old to dress like this anymore’ but then I a good at talking myself down from that worry.
If it is any help, when I tighten my corset lots spills over the top, both boob and back flesh because well, I am not 18 anymore and I am certainly not skinny but I love how they feel so I wear them anyway.
Mollyxxx
My other half feels very similar to this when she isn’t wearing hers – that she isn’t elegant or graceful enough to justify wearing it & feeling like an impostor.
I think it helps her seeing how much I enjoy seeing her wear it and no she isn’t a teenager anymore there are bits & pieces here and there she would want hidden but it doesn’t matter to me at all. Seeing that from me really pushes her confidence up with it and she does look stunning.
Thank you. My man is very sure that I will look totally right in a corset. It is just me that isn’t feeling right yet. It will come and then I will be showing the world!
I have often felt like this in a corset. Especially around the back. It took a long time for me to find the right style of corset. I find you lovely, and think they would be amazing on you, but know that unless YOU feel it, it’s not right. Hopefully you’ll find the corset that fits your views of what you want it to be in the future!
I hope so too. You always look amazing in everything you have posted.
Part of me wants to tell you off but the other part of me completely understands. I shied away from corsets for a long time because I wasn’t pretty enough to wear one. If I’m honest I still feel that way but I love how they feel.
I’m glad you understand. I expect that I will get there one day.